I blame it on the fairytales. Or maybe it's the romantic comedies. The Prince Charming, the star crossed lovers, the against-all-odds-they-end-up-together unbelievable plot twist. They put this notion in our head that you will get this "feeling", the stars will align, the doves will be released. That's just not how it works.
That's the beauty of a fairytale. It's your story! You write the plot twist. People find each other under all sorts of circumstances. Sometimes its against all odds, sometimes its in the grocery store reaching for the same box of cereal and sometimes it develops through a friendship. You find a common ground or similarities with another person and you just want to spend all your time with them. No trusty steed, no glass slipper, no pumpkin coach.
We don't live in a land far, far away full of enchantment. The times have changed. Women will complain that chivalry is dead. It's still there, it has just progressed. Shakespearean sonnets are now good morning texts. Showing up in a horse drawn carriage is now cleaning the mud off your running boards before picking her up. I guarantee you that if you were heading into Earls for a date night and Charming throws his cape over a mud puddle you are going to run the other way. Dating has evolved, the old rules don't apply anymore.
You are going to get burned at some point in your life. I know there are those people out there that found true love in the sandbox and are years into their happily ever afters. Alas, the majority will have to experience that bone crushing, breathe stealing pain that you think you will never get over. You will be hurt, you will be shot down, you will put yourself out there and your feelings will not be reciprocated, you may even end up being someones rebound. These things happen. Its how you react to these situations and your strength to move on that defines who you are. Having the hope that things will get better. Everyone needs to believe in something, for me it's sickeningly true love. I believe that what you do from that point of heartbreak on starts a little bit like "Once upon a time"...
"Fairytales aren't real" "Your life isn't some romantic comedy" I hear this all the time. It is kind of the price of faith. I refuse to give up on the notion that true love exists. You can find magic in everyday life if you have the imagination to see it. My fairytale doesn't involve being rescued or swept off my feet. I'm 28, I rescued myself a long time ago! My fairytale is the strength to overcome heartache, pick up the pieces and move on. If Prince Charming is at the end of that tunnel, well then that is just a bonus! I'm not one to sit around and wait for life to happen to me, I make it happen.
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