I started this blog earlier this year as a fun little escape for myself. I used it as a sort of therapy. I had something on my mind about being single and I wanted to put it out there. I wanted this blog to be honest, funny, informative. I love writing it. It has opened so many doors for me. I have met so many great people! I had no idea all of these wonderful people were right in my backyard. I'm not Mcmurray invisible any more. I have made some great friends because of this blog. When I am out and about in our beautiful city I run into people and they say hello. I have one amazing reader that I am very happy to now call my boyfriend. We met because he read my blog and liked it. Who knew that by just being myself I could welcome this wonderful man into my life. I really count myself blessed. Since getting in a relationship I find myself with a little writer's block. I apologize to my readers (Hi Mom!) and I promise to get back to the funny.
Today I am not going to be funny at all.
Friday evening I got home from work. Like any other day I was exhausted and we had plans to go out for dinner. I plopped on the couch for a few minutes of social media relaxation. I open my facebook and I see that a few of my friends are writing on an old friend's wall. We worked together at Tim Horton's for a year or two after highschool. She was a very sweet girl and we quickly became friends. I see her when I go home to visit sometimes, mostly in passing and we are still on each other's facebook. I see people writing "sorry for your loss", I assumed a grandparent had passed. Then I see my newsfeed flood with how shocked people are. How could this happen? The more I read I learned that my friend's boyfriend of 5 years had died suddenly. Not from natural causes. Not from some tragic accident. It turns out that 11:00am on a Friday morning was a good time for a 65 year old man to get drunk and get behind the wheel. The boyfriend was an avid motorcyclist and was out for a drive on Friday morning when he was run down by a drunk driver.
I stared shocked as I read the report on VOCM news. Although this girl is no longer a close friend my heart absolutely broke for her. I cannot imagine the pain she must feel. Having the love of your life suddenly and violently ripped from your world. How does someone come back from that? How do you even start to move on??
The loss of a life is tragic. But it is the people that are left behind that devastate me. The girlfriend trying to find a reason to go on, the parent burying a child, the droves of friends a good person accumulates over the years. All of these people have their world turned upside down because one selfish asshole thought it was fine to drink to the point of impairment and get behind the wheel. In this day and age it still floors me that this is even an issue. Call a cab, use a designated driver, walk. Do whatever it takes! No one should have to deal with your mistakes! This driver was 65 years old. The boyfriend was 27. How is that fair?? Why does the drunk get to go on with his life? He made the decision to drink and drive. Our legal system is so flawed. He was released from custody the next day. He will probably get a few months of jail time then get to return to his life.
But that Girlfriend, that Mother, That Father, That Sister, Those friends will be forever changed.
Normally I insert funny pictures throughout my blog, but for today I want to leave you with this. It is a video created in Australia showing the devastated people left behind after a drinking and driving incident. Its a compilation of their 20 year anti drinking and driving campaign. Hug your loved ones a little tighter tonight and be thankful they are safe. Please do not drink and drive. Use your options. No one is expendable. Everyone is loved by someone.
WARNING: This video is graphic, devastating, terrifying and heart wrenching. I hope it makes you think next time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2mf8DtWWd8
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